Common Sense From a Girl's Perspective

According to a new study by dating site, www.fifties.com, 17 months and 26 days is about the average length of time a broken heart starts to heal.

The study polled 4000 divorcees and found that whilst just over 43% were relieved their marriage was over, a significant 31% were sad their relationship was finished.

Sixty percent said the feeling of failure was the most difficult thing to accept, whilst 20% said the initial feeling of loss more difficult to deal with that the practicalities of their divorce.

Scarily, a further 20% said they didn’t think they would ever recover from their divorce. But then, more than half (55%) said their divorce was the worst thing they had ever gone through and a further 16% said they still felt distraught.

On a brighter note, the average divorcee will start to feel happier with their life again after 16 months and 11 days after their split.

However, only two thirds of people go on to have a serious relationship after their divorce.

The research also found that meeting people via friends was the most popular way of finding a date, followed by dating sites.

More than one in five have also gone to singles nights in the hope of meeting someone new, with 28% resorting to online dating.

How long has it taken you to get over a broken heart?

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Thursday

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Who is the world's hottest woman this month?

Thursday, October 15, 2009 at 2:19PM |

To be fair she's been pretty hot for quite some time, but GQ (www.gq.com) have just done a photoshoot and interview with January Jones.

January who you ask? Well you may know her better as Mrs Donald Draper in AMC's Emmy and Golden Globe-winnning series Mad Men. (Mad Men) But you've also seen her in The Boat That Rocked, Love Actually and American Wedding.

January is most proud of her part in the 2005 film; The Three Burials of Melquiades Estrada, directed by Tommy Lee Jones, won him Best Actor at the 2005 Cannes Film Festival, and Best Screenplay as well.

In 2009, January was nominated for a Golden Globe for Best Actress in a Television Series Drama for Mad Men but lost to Anna Paquin for True Blood and she won the Actor award at the Screen Actors Guild for Outstanding Performance by an Ensemble in a Drama Series for Mad Men.

Is she hot? See for yourself...

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Saturday

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How to write a better love letter!

Saturday, October 10, 2009 at 1:34PM |

Whenever I send someone a card, regardless of the occasion, I generally write a few sentences to let them know that I think/care/appreciate them more than if I simply signed my name. I feel the small amount of time it takes to write something, and the individual nature of my message, has so much more meaning to the person getting the card.

In an age of email, e-cards, e-commerce, instant gratification and too little time tending our emotional needs and spiritual health, it comes as no surprise that the art of the love letter appears to have been lost. Well, if not lost, buried in the rush for ever faster, more casual, more physical ways of demonstrating our love.

The American artist, Georgia O'Keefe whilst playing a major part in bringing her American art style to Europe in the 20's, specialised in crisp, contoured forms, with subtle tonal variations of colour, many of which have a distinctly sensual appearance. O'Keefe was also a gifted writer.

Her lover, married-at-the-time photographer and promoter of modern art, Alfred Stieglitz, was the recipient of many of O'Keefe's letters, which have just been published as part of a new exhibit at the Whitney Museum of American Art.

O'Keefe and Stieglitz married eventually. Her art has generally been overlooked, but her letters demonstrate what we can achive when we don't let Hallmark do our dirty work for us!

From York Beach, Maine - May 1922
…Dearest I love you.
I am on my back – waiting to be spread wide apart – waiting for you
to die with the sense of you – the pleasure of you – the sensuousness of you touching the sensuousness of me – all my body – all of me is waiting for you to touch the center of me with the center of you –
…When I feel how your touching my body –getting into my body – has given all of me to you – all of you to me as much as one human being can get into and feel another of another – I wonder if there is any difference in body – and spirit – and soul and mind – aren’t they all one and the same thing --
…Its my body that wants you and it seems to be the only thought or desire that I have – it even seems to be my only memory of you – two bodies that have fused – have touched with completeness at both ends making a complete circuit – making them one – a circle that nothing can break – you have given me – the circle of the most painfully intense pleasure –
…Im in such a state that I could write about this all day –

The one film every woman should see...

Thursday, October 1, 2009 at 1:45PM |

I make no apologies for posting this video, nor for the fact that it's something like three years old now.

Although there is more awareness now than ever before, the fashion industry continues to visualise women as un-realistic, alien, digital perfection, rather than the natural, feminine beauties that we should feel proud to be.

Now as a bit of a geek, I can totally relate to the Photoshop skill and technology that can transform an image of a woman into something totally false, despite it being close enough to reality to deceive the eye of most onlookers. The problem of course is that, women, especially young women, tend to aspire to these simply unatainable paragons of beauty.

So I have to applaud the ongoing efforts of the Dove cosmetics brand to campaign so vigorously to raise the self esteem and body awareness of women, especially young women. And that on a world wide basis.

Vist the Dove site in your country by following this link: www.dove.com

And their Campaign for Real Beauty in the UK here: www.campaignforrealbeauty.co.uk

Of course, there is a commercial aspect to the Dove campaign but I do think this is an excellent example of how corporate considerations can dove tail (no pun intended) with the requirements of society as a whole and women in particular.

I am NOT advocating how the fashion industry should change, although I would have thought any industry so dependent on women customers, would want to reduce the negative publicity that size zero models and unrealistic expectations, tend to generate.

Hopefully, there are many, many more women out there who will want to reward Dove for its initiative, and encourage other fashion/cosmetic brands to start taking their responsibilities to their customers more seriously.

Sam xxx

Soon you'll be able to send Sam's logic to whoever needs it most!

Monday, September 21, 2009 at 2:34PM |

I don't really want to be accused of self promotion, so I'm viewing this post as news and hoping you'll believe me.

Girls, (...and any boys who happen to be reading this) soon there will be a LfG e-card page where you'll be able to send some of my logic to your best friends, family, (but not necessarily your mum) colleagues and possibly guys you want to impress. Or even educate.

Personally I hate those crappy, cheapo e-cards that look like they were drawn by a retired cartoonist from the 40's, who got fired from drawing saucy seaside postcards, so think style and wit when you think Logic for Girls e-cards. And best of all, they will be free!!!

I've uploaded one of the designs here, so if you have any comments, use the "Post a Comment" link below, and let me know your thinking.

Love you,

Sam xxx